There’s no “other half” for relationships based on The Quran. The Divine doesn’t do “halfway.” Like shoes, two souls make a pair.

Complementary Pairs

Soulmates in The Quran and Prophetic Tradition touches on complementary pairs found across traditions. Additional examples include Anam Cara, Celtic for “soul friend,” as seen with the Mawlana Rumi and Shams Tabrez’s story. Shams knew he loved Rumi when he threw his books away, telling him to live what he’d been reading. Bashert is a predestined partner in Yiddish; Reyah is Hebrew, Jodah in Malay. Legend of Ancient Egyptian Osiri and Isis whose love lasted a…

A category of soul contracts with undeniable chemistry and similar life missions.

"'I went to the Messenger of Allah and mentioned [Mu’awiyah’s proposal]… he said: ‘As for Mu’awiyah, he is a man with no wealth, and as far as Abu Jahm he is a man who is harsh with women.’ She said: ‘Then Usamah bin Zaid proposed to me, and he married me. So Allah blessed me with Usamah.’” [1]

This scene features three-times divorced Fatimah bint Qais, who shares the predicament of many. She saw parts of herself where she had yet to develop in suitors. She attracted Abu Jahm, an abuser, while she had dependency issues, a common trauma bond pattern.

She also attracted Mu’awiyah, who was to become a founder of one of the greatest empires, but like her, hadn’t reached the pinnacle of his development. She heeded the Prophet’s…

“…Hu is Allah — there is no deity except Allah: the King, the Most Sacred, the Source of Serenity, the Inspirer of Belief, the Inspirer, the Almighty, the Irresistible, the Majestic. Glorified is Allah far above what they associate with Him ˹in worship˺! Hu is Allah: the Creator, the Inventor, the Shaper. Hu ˹alone˺ has the Most Beautiful Names...” (The Quran, The Gathering 59:22–24)

What inclines many to love The Prophet’s ﷺ soul is the balance of polarities in his character. While Jesus and Joseph (Allah be pleased with them) are archetypes for the more jamaal (beautiful), names of The…

How to break emotional ties that don’t serve God.

The seven lusts (shaha’wat) mentioned in The Quran[1] are:

  1. Spouses (relationships)
  2. Children
  3. Gold
  4. Silver
  5. Cattle
  6. Horses (transit)
  7. Land

These are not evil in themselves, only tools. The reasons cutting soul ties is not recommended traces back even further than this. [2] Desires have potential to bring us closer to Divine love (hubb) through gratitude and lessons. However, seeking and loving them like we love God- or worse, is where the problem lies.

Feeling something is meant on a soul level without a complete outside manifestation is a strange place to be…

“No one is as deserving of our love as Allah.” — The Islamic Concept of God

Self love is a deeply interconnected act. While love of God may become a priority at rock bottom, maintaining that mentality can be a different story. By eliminating all thoughts of past and potential, we ground in certitude.

Ignoring temporary whims in favor of grounding in a God-first mindset is easier with a selection of healthy distractions.

The following are means to this.

Soul Care

Don’t mistake stillness settling in for depression.

  1. Offer The Guidance Prayer. This is the best prayer for decisions. By reciting it, we consciously place God’s will before our…

Whether you are an introvert seeking refined practice of an old skill, or an extrovert looking to embrace their subtler side, quiet confidence will lead the shift.

Establishing faith is establishing confidence. While confidence can be confused with conceit or boastfulness, authentic confidence a form of trust, and is often the quietest. True confidence does not need other’s attention, but is trust in the Creator that comes from the inside out.

Part I: Becoming Secure

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Step 1: Prepare more, manipulate less. Relationships without Divine facilitation are mental manipulation. Potential “mistakes” we may stress over tend not to even materialize. If and when they do…

Allah made ease natural to life. Relief after difficulty gets applause. Here’s how to make ease with difficulty a smoother truth pill to swallow.

Quran, Expansion, with difficulty there’s ease.

As one translation of The Quran goes, repeated for emphasis, “certainly, after difficulty there’s relief” (Meaning of The Quran, The Expansion, 94:5–6).

However, the literal, less circulated meaning is “…with difficulty comes ease.”

Narrations of the Prophet’s life also support a fuller story:

“Whenever Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) was given the choice of one of two matters, he would choose the easier of the two, as long as it was not sinful to do so, but if…

Foreseeing the place(s) Allah would take you to, could overshadow that thing you can’t live without.

It might feel like a lifetime before meeting your life partner; like attracts like.

“First you must mate with your own soul.” — Abraham Hicks

Time and time again we see inspirational quotes, advice and weird mantras about meeting “the love of your life,” packaged in the trendy term “soulmate.”

What a load of lipservice,” disbelievers say. A few struggle to explain the experience. Then they don’t.

Instead, they allude to bits and pieces of meeting yourself in others with hazy phrases like “it gives feeling of coming home,” and “you feel very familiar- you never want to be away again.” Or a favorite, “de ja vu.”

Ownership- that is, taking responsibility for feeling loved- is crucial to this. …

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